The ‘straight’ form of you

convinced that all straight girls feel at the very least some attraction to ladies
convinced that your desire for seeing appealing women/scantily clad women/boobs can be a reaction that is artificial by the objectification of females in media
Thinking you’re simply a brilliant intense feminist for genuinely reasoning women can be amazing and having a formidable choice because of their business
Being actually into exactly exactly how ladies look “aesthetically”/“just as creative interest”/“fashion goals”
Thinking it is objective and uncontested that nearly all women can be much more appealing than most males
Being an extremely intense LGBT+ “ally” and getting weirdly bbw boobs video psychological about homophobia but presuming you’re simply an extremely Good Ally and v empathetic
Having like half your buddy team from college grow to be LGBT+
Getting psychological or having a powerful effect you don’t realize to f/f love tales etc.
Having had individuals think you had been homosexual whenever you had no suspicion you had been homosexual

Checking out attraction to females

Experiencing in the man’s position or just never/rarely imagining yourself in the woman’s position
Really focusing on the women in het porn
Being really into the idea of kissing/being sexual with a woman ‘to turn guys on’
Being really annoyed when guys actually do express interest in watching or joining in when you do that
Only feeling/expressing attraction to or sexual interest in women when you’re inebriated or otherwise impaired like you could live with a woman in a romantic way, even if you can’t imagine doing anything sexual with a woman
Feeling like you could enjoy sexual interaction with a woman, even if you can’t imagine having romantic feelings for a woman
Thinking you couldn’t be a lesbian because you’re not attractive enough, cool enough, or otherwise in the same league as most of the women you know
Interacting with het sex/romance in media by imagining yourself

Gender Feelings

Having lots of conflicting sex emotions which are just feasible to solve once you know you are/can be described as a lesbian
convinced that being gnc and feeling a disconnect from traditional womanhood mean that you can’t be a lady just because that is what feels closest to right – many lesbians are gnc and several lesbians feel disconnected from conventional womanhood because it’s so bound up in heteropatriarchy
Knowing you’re drawn to females and never having the ability to parse that (esp + any sex nonconformance) as homosexual, using quite a long time to find out if you’re a right guy or perhaps a lesbian
Being dysphoric concerning the elements of you which make right males think the body is owed for them, needing to determine just what that dysphoria means for/to you
Wishing straight people and/or males didn’t parse you as a lady, but being completely confident with the thought of other females seeing you as you of those
Knowing you’re drawn to ladies, but feeling weirdly accountable and uncomfortable attempting to communicate with them as being a right man, and just later on realizing you’re actually a trans lesbian
Knowing you’re homosexual, but experiencing like you’re struggling against comp het stuff – vexation, responsibility, fear, disinterest, self-objectification, etc. – when you attempt to communicate with males romantically/sexually, and just later realizing you’re a trans lesbian and never a homosexual guy
Being nonbinary and using a number of years to evaluate having the ability to respect/understand your nonbinary identification along with your lesbianness as well

Considering lesbianism

planning to be described as a lesbian but feeling like if you don’t already know just you will be one you can’t be
Feeling alienated from most of the male-gazey impractical depictions of lesbians as just being young slim rich white cis abled conventionally attractive sex conforming right actresses in tv/movies/porn and convinced that alienation means you can’t be homosexual
Discovering that the type is gnc ladies or ladies who share your underrepresented demographic and that is why you’re certainly not interested in a-listers
perhaps not experiencing drawn to right ladies but abruptly having a lot of crushes once you understand for particular certain women can be bi/gay
experiencing accountable about attempting to be described as a lesbian, experiencing like you’re simply attention-seeking or wanting to be stylish
Suppressing your lesbian desires since you think exploring that desire will mean you’re a bad/homophobic individual making use of lesbianness selfishly
Wishing you’re a lesbian to flee the vexation of dating guys
Fantasizing on how much enjoyable it might be to be always a lesbian and simply be with women/a certain girl, but convinced that can’t be for your needs
stressing that a few of your previous attraction to males was actually genuine which means you can’t be described as a lesbian
Worrying that bc you can’t be 100% certain you’re perhaps not interested in males and can’t be 100% yes you won’t replace your brain, you can’t be described as a lesbian
Worrying which you just wish to be a lesbian as a result of traumatization and that means your lesbianness could be Fake
Worrying that trauma-induced problems in the method that you encounter intercourse (age.g., a practice of self-harming via sex w guys or perhaps a fear of/lack of interest in just about any sex at all) suggest you’re not a genuine Lesbian

Every product about this list is frequent among genuine Lesbians. It is all Normal Lesbian Stuff. If you’re stressed you can’t be considered a lesbian although it’s the life span you really would like yourself, i really hope thus giving you authorization to explore that. You may be permitted to be considered a lesbian.

Of course you took the time to read this entire thing because you’re curious about your identity, if you identified with a bunch of items on this list – you may or may not be a lesbian, but friend, you almost certainly aren’t cishet if you’re not sure yet. Welcome.

(I’d want to hear other things lesbians desire you’d understood had been something once you had been first exploring your identification! )